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When was the last time you flirted with your partner without expecting sex? Not when you were trying to initiate something. Not when you were hoping a back rub would turn into something more. I'm talking about genuine flirting, affection, and romance without an expectation attached. Remember when you first started dating? You made plans. You sent thoughtful messages. You kissed just because you wanted to kiss. You made an effort to make each other feel special. Then life happ

Want to be more attractive to your partner? Try being someone they don't have to manage. That might sound harsh, but let's talk about it. One of the most overlooked parts of maintaining sexual intimacy is what happens when you're not having sex. How do you show up in your relationship? Do you follow through? Do you recognize when your partner needs support? Do you take initiative, or do you wait for someone to tell you what to do? Sexual attraction is complex. But for some pe

Want more sex? Start by taking something off your partner's plate. I know. That probably wasn't the sex advice you were expecting. But if you're wondering why your wife, husband, or partner doesn't seem interested in sex anymore, the answer might have less to do with attraction and more to do with exhaustion. As a certified sex therapist, I encourage couples to look beyond how frequently they're having sex and examine what's happening in their relationship outside the bedroom

By Baliegh Butler, MSW, LCSW, CST | Balance & Bliss Therapy You have spent the entire day being needed. Someone needed breakfast. Someone needed an answer. Someone needed you to remember an appointment, respond to an email, pick up groceries, make a decision, solve a problem, or simply listen. Maybe you've been working all day, parenting, managing a household, caring for aging parents, or juggling responsibilities that never seem to end. And finally, the day is over. You sit

Did COVID Create a “Porn Addiction” Problem? What the Statistics Actually Tell Us When the world shut down in 2020, our routines changed almost overnight. People were isolated. Working from home. Spending more time online. Relationships were under stress. Gyms, restaurants, workplaces, schools, and many of the activities people normally used to cope were suddenly unavailable. And pornography was only a click away. During the early months of COVID-19, reports of dramatic incre

You love your wife. You find her beautiful. You care about your marriage. So why don’t you want to have sex with her? If you’ve found yourself Googling “Why don’t I want sex with my wife?” or “Why is my sex drive so low?”, you may be worried that something is wrong with you or that your lack of sexual desire means something bigger about your marriage. It doesn’t necessarily. As a sex therapist, I want men to know something that often gets overlooked: loving your partner and w